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1  About this Site / The Atlas / Re: Issue with one particular moderator on: February 10, 2017, 01:56:20 pm
ftr I navigate reality in lady pants, grumps, but I appreciate the sentiment
2  About this Site / The Atlas / Re: Issue with one particular moderator on: February 10, 2017, 01:27:02 pm
Ideas like this are not altogether unpopular and they are worth debating freely. Shutting down discussion is only useful after you've reached a certain point where things have devolved enough that nothing useful is being shared anymore or people are only being deliberately hurtful. Now, I think ExtremeRepublican lacks any nuanced understanding of what he's implying, but isn't it more helpful for advocates of trans acceptance to actually engage with people they disagree with? You see...

It's easy to understand why views like this are out there because having an identity (which seems just to be an amorphous quality which exists only in the mind and must be taken by others with faith) that is at odds with ones physical biology (assumedly!) which then causes someone to feel "unwell".. sounds a whole hell of a lot like a mental illness. But the term "mental illness" is a loaded one - it has implications that someone is delusional or that there is something wrong that needs fixing. But.. isn't there, most of the time? Isn't this just further stigmatizing mental illness and those with them in general? We need to draw a distinction here: having a transgender identity itself isn't an "illness" but the negative consequences it may (but not necessarily) bring are of feeling not well which causes people often to seek help from the medical community, especially psychiatrists and psychologists.

This is likely partly why the DSM entry changed to "Gender Dysphoria" and the recommended treatment course for transgender people was altered to be less strict in many ways. Having a DSM entry can be useful in helping people access care (especially in regards to coverage for treatments by health insurers). The medical community has mostly accepted that transgender people are not "delusional" and that they do need easier access to care. This care in fixing the disparity between mind and body to alleviate dysphoria focuses not on challenging the identity of the individual anymore. There is now a push even to cut out psychiatric/psychological requirements to access care (I personally find this.. problematic). Still, however, talking to a mental health professional is useful for many because of the difficulties of navigating the world with this identity and achieving some kind of self-acceptance. It's useful to have a recognized, named "condition" because it can open doors.

There is a lot more that could be said about all of this - other trans people might skewer my views on this because there is a lot going on "behind the scenes" so to speak when a transgender person seeks care and how people think this should work is hotly debated. I'm probably a little bit old-fashioned, or something. But I'm about done.

So, I get the knee-jerk reaction to the deleted post because you just know when someone says this is a "mental illness" that the term is being used disparagingly, but it shouldn't be, because it's okay to have a mental illness. This is all well beyond the scope of anything ER is likely to grasp. I'm merely trying to show that while his view is dumb and hurtful, it has specks of some things actually worth talking about in it... if growing in your understanding of this is something you find worthwhile on a forum. In any case, this is partly why I don't hang out here very much anymore.
3  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: How do you write the lowercase "A"? on: January 28, 2017, 04:36:45 pm
At some point I switched from option 2 to option 1. I find it more pleasing to the eyes and hands. And no, I'm not sure why over time I decide to change the way I write, although I wonder if anyone else has done this. The way I write now is almost completely different to how I wrote even 3 years ago aside from a few letters.
4  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Which parent were you closest to as a kid? on: January 28, 2017, 10:29:00 am
My parents were both well-intentioned, ignorant assholes. To be fair, I was also a contrarian sh**t of a child.
5  General Politics / U.S. General Discussion / Re: POLL: Should online gambling be legalized? on: January 28, 2017, 04:37:26 am
Online gambling should be legal, but outlaw the internet.
6  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Update for Everyone V: Born Under A Bad Sign on: January 27, 2017, 02:16:18 am
Had a huge fight today with my sister who, 13 months after I came out, has decided to inform me she'll never accept me as a woman. Because it is going against God and I need to repent. And disagreeing with her is disrespectful because she's entitled to an opinion.

Terrible, terrible day.
7  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Update for Everyone V: Born Under A Bad Sign on: January 26, 2017, 12:12:18 am
- living full time as a woman now and it is amazing to not hate myself
- currently fending off rejection from my american christian family though
- partner has had a litanny of health issues and may be going into psych ward soon of her own volition
- finished losing weight (31 kilos GONE)
- quit drinking heavily every weekend
- quit sleeping pills
- woke as all hell
- happy to open up to more people and be friends or whatever on facebook (pm me, no creeps plz)

on my horizons:
- name change imminent
- applying for new passport (hopefully letting me change gender marker on that but who knows now)
- applying for australian citizenship
- using capital letters again
- maybe going back to school or finding a more fulfilling job

thanks for starting the new thread LLR and I loved your graph. it was like someone threw a bomb into a pile of pipe cleaners. beautiful work!
8  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Check your privilege on: November 19, 2016, 05:32:30 pm
a little disappointed there was no "I am doing this quiz" item
9  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: How crazy is your social media feed right now? on: November 12, 2016, 08:30:24 am
"How crazy is your social media feed?" is a question only asked by people who have no immediate insight into the real world.
10  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Favorite poster who joined in 2006 (Take Two) on: November 11, 2016, 11:52:45 pm
beginning to think this recurring instance of people capitalizing the "k" at the end of my username is some kind of subtle jab
11  General Discussion / Religion & Philosophy / Re: How do you pronounce "Nietzsche?" on: August 09, 2016, 04:36:23 am
As in the song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BT-WPo3sP04

12  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: How masculine/feminine do you rate yourself? on: August 09, 2016, 02:07:49 am
50% Masculine 44% Feminine (very much Undifferentiated-Androgynous). Basically -

Nice and balanced.  Now somebody give me a piece of chocolate and a screw driver.

Glad to know I'm not the only one around here who fixes the lawnmower in heels.
13  Forum Community / Off-topic Board / Re: How to put it in easy English? on: May 02, 2016, 10:23:37 am
The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are bright and full of life.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes don't.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are like the eyes of someone who isn't as old as she is.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are not on her face.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes ain't no goddamned rat.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes ..well, let's not even go there.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are made of flawless glass.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes have come across a coupon for cheap Botox treatments.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes were covered by insurance.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are like black, vacuous holes that reveal the futility of effort and the inevitability of death.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are unable to see them. This is tale of her struggle with body adysmorphic disorder.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes beckon your own downwards to wrinkles that allude to the promises of new life. She is on top of you now, kissing. Her strength is surprising. You are overcome.

The wrinkles1 on her face may indicate her age, but her eyes are like a fountain of youth, spraying out thin streams of water that taste faintly of urine and pennies.

I hope this helped.
14  Forum Community / Off-topic Board / Re: Mustard. on: May 02, 2016, 10:06:28 am
Honestly, well, I didn't know mustard categorization was done by colour. I usually will go yellow (I just think of this as "mustard" or American mustard) but I absolutely adore wholegrain mustard on the right occasion. Dijon, related, also nice.. Hot English mustard I typically give a pass, although I don't dislike it. Its heat is like that of wasabi. It's gassy, festering, and can sting in the back of your skull if you overdo it. And my god do I love to overdo my serving of mustard. sh**t doesn't even have calories!
15  General Politics / U.S. General Discussion / Re: North Carolina Overturns LGBT-Discrimination Bans on: April 02, 2016, 11:02:53 am
I will tell you where my views came from. I spent two years on a major university campus, and in attending semi-regularly the LGBT group, I found that the vast majority of the members were either completely transgender, or said they were "non-binary" and had come up with all these words that aren't in the dictionary that they wanted to be called instead of he and she. Not only that, but they were the same thin-skinned "safe space" assholes that are taking over other college campuses. There was even one girl who thought she should have been born a cat, so she painted her face like a cat, complete with plastic whiskers every day.

One girl blew up at me because I dared call her ma'am, as you're supposed to call a woman whose name you don't know or can't remember, and had I had my wits about me, this would have been my reaction to both her temper tantrum and her little "gender identity:"


There was even one girl who went so far as to drop $400 into legally changing her name to Max because she was so angry at people laughing at her idea that she wasn't a man or a woman, despite her clearly being a woman.

Edit: Decided to cut down my very long post into a few key points:

On your college experience: These people do sound like obnoxious jerks and I don't blame you for disliking them. However, they aren't representative of everyday transgender people, who usually just want to go about their business just like anyone else. It would do you good to ask yourself why these people became overly defensive, angry, and irritating.

On transgenderism itself: A lot of what I'd written the first time around has been said to you many times, probably. I don't know why me saying it would make it sink in. But, you know, evidence is building that there is a physical, biological basis for it. It's also telling that when transgender people are given the hormones of the sex they wish to transition to, they become remarkably happier and more well-adjusted psychologically. It's almost as if their brains have been expecting these chemicals to have been there the entire time. That's speculative, but it should give you pause.

On the bathroom issue: I'm always taken back by how little people know about the actual process of transitioning, and how they then decide they can spout off "common sense" rules and try to "solve" the issue. I don't really feel like going into detail here, my only points are that requiring physical traits very quickly creates more problems than it solves and that, well, a good majority of transgender people just want to pee and get back to whatever it was they were doing. This, as I said before, is a very common theme among people who visit restrooms. You can't make a "separate but equal" solution to this by requiring a third bathroom either. Guess what - you have probably used restrooms alongside transgender people hundreds of times and never even realized it. Spooky!

If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.
16  Forum Community / Off-topic Board / Re: do YOU have a palmaris longus tendon????? on: March 18, 2016, 04:59:27 pm
If so, you have a palmaris longus tendon. It is as useless and ugly as you are, but luckily can also be easily ignored and discarded. It is maintained, but not loved - just quietly resented by its surrounds.

I have it...

You're so mean Sad

If it makes you feel any better, I too am holding back human progress with my useless tendon.

My arms don't go straight out kid...nice try.

Sorry, didn't mean to be ableist. Perhaps try having a loved one slice open your arm?
17  Forum Community / Off-topic Board / do YOU have a palmaris longus tendon????? on: March 18, 2016, 08:49:52 am
Hold your arm straight outwards, palm up, and touch your thumb and pinky finger together. Do you see a tendon popping out of your wrist?

If so, you have a palmaris longus tendon. It is as useless and ugly as you are, but luckily can also be easily ignored and discarded. It is maintained, but not loved - just quietly resented by its surrounds.
18  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Opinion of AAD on: March 18, 2016, 08:21:55 am
AAD simultaneously holds itself as having better serious discussion than Atlas and also better not serious discussion than Atlas. This is accurate to me. It also, of course, still has a lot of useless bullsh**t, and I am happy to participate in that capacity.

In any case the Atlas Forum community continues to take itself and its members way, way too seriously, in a way that I have never encountered on any other forum. I don't know if it's to do with the Serious subject matter or the Serious moderation policies or what, but wow!

There's a reason this place sprouted the ingenious "FF/HP" dichotomy - a great deal of the userbase is incapable of processing nuance and separating people/demographics from their politics, and a small portion of the remainder calls them out on their bullsh**t. Every now and then this place chews up someone and spits out a real analytical (but lucid) bastard. I'm happy they've mostly consolidated in one place for now.

Those that otherwise remain here mostly are absolute monsters (in the best possible way) and I love reading them rip idiocy to shreds. It's what keeps me coming back (admittedly less and less often).
19  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: What's your favorite OS (Operating System)? on: March 13, 2016, 06:01:24 pm
I do also have a soft spot for Windows XP because I used it for a very, very long time. I still run it occasionally in a VM because there are a couple of programs I still like to use that don't work on Windows 10.

As for Linux  - I've got a soft spot for Lubuntu because it's brought some of my older machines back to life. Ubuntu itself I always found a little irritating for some reason. Installing Mint is on my to-do list. If it's as good as I keep hearing I might use it semi-exclusively.
20  Atlas Fantasy Elections / Voting Booth / Re: February 2016 Federal Election on: February 19, 2016, 10:54:55 pm
[1] Adam Griffin/AHDuke99

[1] Ebowed
[2] 1184AZ
21  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Update for Everyone IV - Hungover on: February 15, 2016, 07:19:05 pm
7. AntonioV (46)

Ugh, really? What in the world made me think that sharing so much personal stuff with Atlas was a good idea? Huh

To be fair, I didn't exactly look at every post and determine whether or not it was a true update. A lot of them are probably remarks and replies to other people. Darthebear is especially prolific seeing as how he registered like four months after the last thread began.

To actually make an update, I am currently on holidays from work for two weeks. Haven't actually been able to do much because I've been seeing a flurry of doctors for myself and my partner. Some good news, I started HRT today. Not good news, on Monday my partner is going to get catheters into her heart to check for issues there. So yeah.
22  Forum Community / Forum Community / Update for Everyone IV - Hungover on: February 15, 2016, 08:12:28 am
Welcome to the new thread. It's fresh! It's clean! Let's sully it up.

I can't attest to know just what is going on specifically with the last thread since it's such a big scattered mishmash of a thing (if only there were a place everyone could have their own thread, alas!), so I won't attempt to give a silly rundown on what was happening for individual posters. I will however give you some useless information I compiled. You guys like that kind of thing I heard.

Here were the most prolific whingers:

10. IndyTexas / Hash / sjkqw (34)
9. Darthebear / TDAS04 / True Federalist (40)
8. R2D2 (43)
7. AntonioV (46)
6. HagridOfTheDeep (51)
5. Simfan (53)
4. SawX (62) (RIP FF)
3. Madeleine (86)
2. Chairman Sanchez (178)
1. Cathcon (191)

And just for fun I thought I would grab a few first posts from random people and compare them to their last posts in the thread.

Quote from: Turkisblau
Got my first college acceptance (GMU) and feel good about it, as I didn't apply early anywhere.

Still procrastinating on a lot of work that I have to make up...
Quote from: Turkisblau
So college is turning out better and better...

Received news that I have been accepted as a Resident Adviser for next school year; I not only got the position but have been placed in an upperclassman-only dorm (I am currently a freshman, will be a sophomore next school year), so I won't have to deal with freshmen! It's a very competitive program so I thought that there was no way I would even get it at all. A lot of friends of mine who I felt were more qualified than I am didn't even get alternate Sad

Between my summer research gig and this, I feel like I have everything working out for me for about the first time in my life.

Quote from: Kalwejt
Did some laundry. More at 10.
Quote from: Kalwejt
I have returned.

That is all.

Quote from: anvi
Having a nice time in Halifax with life and classes and such.  But I was trying to lay the groundwork for a permanent teaching job here this year so that I could at long last live permanently with my lady ; But it's fairly obvious already that budget shortfalls and low enrollment in Nova Scotia schools will never produce a lasting gig for me here. And it's pretty much becoming impossible for my girlfriend to viably relocate in the foreseeable future either.  So, next year it will be back to our lonesome corners. I'm trying to take it in stride; I'm grateful for the year of employment I was granted up here now, and it's been nice living like a grown-up, in an actual house with a loved one, on a sustained basis for at least this time--it's been so long since I have. I might not be so serene about it when I go back to the States by myself next year, and to a turbulent department to boot  But, who knows what the future will bring?  One has to be happy in the moment when one can, because you never know about life tomorrow.

It's been, I must say, a fairly bad year in the world in general.  Conflicts, deadly illnesses, accidents, disasters, ect.  And a number of very nice people on Atlas seem to be having a hard time.  Hope things get better for everyone soon.  Let's hang in there for a few months and hope crossing the threshold into 2015 brings happier days for all.
Quote from: anvi
Hi all.  I've been busy.  Been chair of my department for a semester now; got some good things accomplished and am, most importantly, still alive.  I really wish the folks in Springfield would pass a budget for this year.  If my university doesn't get state money by July 1st, I'll ask someone to send an FC update on my behalf as I sit outside on some hill in Jackson County and count the stars at night.

Hope everyone is well!

Quote from: Snowstalker's Last Stand
The family went to a tapas restaurant in Philly with my dad for his 50th birthday.
Quote from: Snowstalker's Last Stand
Roll Eyes

Things are getting better. Spring is in the air. The wheel of life spins through the river of time, spraying droplets of courage, and carrying the chariot of all humanity, and it is being drawn by the horses of metaphors. Let us beat them with the whips of love by posting in this thread. To not do so would be unpatriotic.
23  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Post something blatantly untrue about the preceding poster on: February 14, 2016, 06:38:47 am
Once referred to a book as a "loaf of word-bread" and was promptly shot by Alvin Holmes, Democratic member of the Alabama House of Representatives. Holmes later described to police that cxs was a craven man without honour who has no respect for the written word. No charges were filed against Holmes.

(I really missed this thread)
24  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Opinion of the Atlas Forum community as a whole? on: February 12, 2016, 08:29:44 am
Oh yeah!  I remember that now, you guys were lucky enough to run into a polite admin.  Doesn't change the fact that you still did it and it doesn't matter that it was as terrible place.  Still a dick move no matter how you spin it.

Not denying that we were asshats or that it was stupid, just that it was a big deal! It's still dumb to point to that instance is one indicative of AAD's propensity for shenanigans - AAD's community doesn't exactly align with those of us who engaged in that "dick move" nor did AAD's community exist as a somewhat distinct thing. It has more than earned its own reputation since then and you are free to misunderstand it.

If anything you should be grateful that by separating ourselves you have been given more room to make your views known without as much backlash. Now, my friend, now - what joy is brought into my life whenever I read a dead0man post! Bless you for keeping them only here, where I can truly savour and appreciate the distinct flavours. On AAD it is easy to find sweet, savoury, and artfully sour. But when I need salty and bitter I can always count on you. Here. Away. You must appreciate the separation now for similar reasons, I must imagine. Or is your unwarranted bile coming from a place of separation anxiety?
25  Forum Community / Forum Community / Re: Post something blatantly untrue about the preceding poster on: February 12, 2016, 08:06:45 am
My favourite part of necromancing this thread was just how long it took for the reply to go through, like you could feel the long forgotten pathways through the networking cables, the drive heads moving to places they hadn't in years. in fact, the first reply didn't even go through and I had to post twice! I like to think I made a technician somewhere scramble.

But to keep this thread on topic, Badger was, in fact, that technician.
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