The third option is the only option compatible with human freedom and dignity.
How would a person ever choose what they want to be?
People choose who they are constantly. All life is a choice.
People make what we call "choices" based on a set of predispositions, circumstances, and values systems. Most decisions arrived at are thusly the result of preexisting factors or absurd chance. As such, I would say it's very inappropriate to claim people simply choose to behave certain ways. "Free will" is a hedonistic fantasy.
I'm simply not interested in your opinion on the subject. Sorry.
Then what are your interests? Perhaps I could play more to those instead.
Freedom. And as you don't value it very highly (though I'm sure you make an exception for your own), I'm afraid we're going to remain at loggerheads.