I am not sure quite what to do with this. Is this a statement of concern about the well being of gays, a suggestion that gays should get the heck out of areas where they are less welcome, that some places are still backward, that gays should hang where they are not wanted, or what?
It's futile to try to be themselves in quite a few areas of the country. A lot of places are downright intolerant about homosexuality, and that will never change anytime soon no matter how hard some people dream/fight. Why would somebody choose to bang their head against that wall when they can be much happier in Los Angeles or New York? And from your standpoint, don't you want these folks in Los Angeles? LOL
Absolutely. But some gays are unable to accept hard realities about many areas of the country. These individuals should realize that is the problem of the people in those areas, not their problem, and move on.
The thing is, you're right from a bloodless rational perspective, but there's this funny little thing called 'sense of place' that some people (not as many as in previous ages, but some) have.