How did you meet your significant other?

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

Assuming you have one or recently had one?

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

I thought we already had this kind of a thread.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

Don't touch old wounds!

[Free Palestine]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

I don't give a damn about "healthy" or "unhealthy" relationships, I don't want both

[Free Palestine]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

Well, I'm not interested in relationships.  I generally value what little solitude I have, and if I were to meet a nice girl I would see no need to be anything more than friends.

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

Well, I'm not interested in relationships.  I generally value what little solitude I have, and if I were to meet a nice girl I would see no need to be anything more than friends.

that is what you say now. just you wait.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

Well, I'm not interested in relationships.  I generally value what little solitude I have, and if I were to meet a nice girl I would see no need to be anything more than friends.

that is what you say now. just you wait.

Annie, why the hell are you assuming that everyone would get into a solid relationship.

Most of people surely, but please notice there are people who remain single.

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

Well, I'm not interested in relationships.  I generally value what little solitude I have, and if I were to meet a nice girl I would see no need to be anything more than friends.

that is what you say now. just you wait.

Annie, why the hell are you assuming that everyone would get into a solid relationship.

Most of people surely, but please notice there are people who remain single.

I won't give up hope buddy. The ones who remain single don't want to be single. They just give up. I wont give up on you either chris.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

Well, I'm not interested in relationships.  I generally value what little solitude I have, and if I were to meet a nice girl I would see no need to be anything more than friends.

that is what you say now. just you wait.

Annie, why the hell are you assuming that everyone would get into a solid relationship.

Most of people surely, but please notice there are people who remain single.

I won't give up hope buddy. The ones who remain single don't want to be single. They just give up. I wont give up on you either chris.

That;s not true, Annie. Some people don't fit this model. Don't be such a moralf****t

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Don't have one.  Don't need one.

correct. But one day you will.

Wow you're mean! 

All I was saying is that you never need a significant other. We generally want one. And one day he will have one. It is very important to distinguish need from want here. it is part of a healthy relationship.

Well, I'm not interested in relationships.  I generally value what little solitude I have, and if I were to meet a nice girl I would see no need to be anything more than friends.

that is what you say now. just you wait.

Annie, why the hell are you assuming that everyone would get into a solid relationship.

Most of people surely, but please notice there are people who remain single.

I won't give up hope buddy. The ones who remain single don't want to be single. They just give up. I wont give up on you either chris.

That;s not true, Annie. Some people don't fit this model. Don't be such a moralf****t

Kind of hard since it is my middle name. I wont give up. I know people who were like you but then whoops they got married and are happily married.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

Kind of hard since it is my middle name. I wont give up. I know people who were like you but then whoops they got married and are happily married.

True, but that's not an universal rule.

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Kind of hard since it is my middle name. I wont give up. I know people who were like you but then whoops they got married and are happily married.

True, but that's not an universal rule.

sure, but I will always hope and believe.

[Bacon King]

The girl I'm "dating" (it's explicitly an open relationship based on our mutual lack of desire for physical commitment, yet we are extremely close emotionally and most people are very surprised when they first learn about the nature of our relationship) I actually first met when she was a homosexual fraternity brother's platonic "date" for our spring formal in Panama City Beach. I was dating another girl at the time (and that entire relationship was a horrible idea, but that's another story entirely).

She apparently liked me as soon as she met me but I was mostly oblivious to the signs and thought it was simply harmless friendly flirting. Over the summer, my "horrible idea" relationship became a flaming train wreck, and that girl and I haven't talked to since- but again, that's another story entirely.

Around that point, me and my current girlfriend started talking. I called her on the phone for her birthday, and she was there for me when I needed to rant while I was getting over my ex. Eventually, however, after several weeks of that impromptu friendship, I became genuinely attracted to her, and she told me that she felt the same way and had felt like that ever since she knew me.

She lived in New York and I in Georgia, but we telephoned and skyped pretty often. In the month before school we communicated clearly our intentions to be close but also our reservations about entering a relationship. She loves flirting and getting attention from guys at bars (free drinks for her!) and I find it extremely difficult not to sleep around when given the opportunity. We communicated our feelings- we both wanted strongly to be close to each other- and realized we'd have to try something different.

Once we got back to Tulane everything clicked perfectly. We loved spending time together. The first night back we talked and I mentioned the idea of the "open relationship" where we would have all the emotional attachment without any of the exclusivity (note that I wasn't really sure it's what an "open relationship" actually is, but that's what the closest facebook relationship status is so that's what we call it!). She agreed, and we've happily been together now for six months and going.

[© tweed]

I am far too Judeo-Christianized to be able to do that, though I envy you.

[Bacon King]

I am far too Judeo-Christianized to be able to do that, though I envy you.

I dunno if religious/cultural beliefs really have anything to do with it. I was a devout Christian until age 16 and she's a semi-observant Jew. Really, the only "trick" is to know to let go of one's petty and senseless jealousy. Neither of us are at all jealous people, and that I think is why the arrangement has worked so especially well.

[© tweed]

I am far too Judeo-Christianized to be able to do that, though I envy you.

I dunno if religious/cultural beliefs really have anything to do with it. I was a devout Christian until age 16 and she's a semi-observant Jew. Really, the only "trick" is to know to let go of one's petty and senseless jealousy. Neither of us are at all jealous people, and that I think is why the arrangement has worked so especially well.

same thing, isn't it?

[JSojourner]

Moody Bible Institute, Centennial class of 1986.

Ironically, though, we never dated until after graduation. 21 years, plus...she's still the best thing that ever happened to me...even though I relish ragging on her about being the old ball & chain...

[afleitch]

Unahsmaed to say it was on 'teh internets.' We were having a laugh at our own misfortune and the perils of the gay 'scene' when we ended up meeting for coffee. That was 5 years ago. I fell in love with him and we kissed when he was making me dinner

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

Unahsmaed to say it was on 'teh internets.' We were having a laugh at our own misfortune and the perils of the gay 'scene' when we ended up meeting for coffee. That was 5 years ago. I fell in love with him and we kissed when he was making me dinner

awwww beautiful, just beautiful.

[Marokai Backbeat]

She loves flirting and getting attention from guys at bars (free drinks for her!) and I find it extremely difficult not to sleep around when given the opportunity.

Oh what a match.

[Bacon King]

She loves flirting and getting attention from guys at bars (free drinks for her!) and I find it extremely difficult not to sleep around when given the opportunity.

Oh what a match.

I beg your pardon?

Don't get the wrong impression- it's not like we're two selfish hedonists. The "open" aspect isn't even that big of a deal most of the time. It's just the arrangement that works.