Breaking up

[Fritz]

This has nothing whatever to do with politics, but I thought my friends in the forum should know what is going on.

My partner of 2 and a half years broke up with me on Friday.  I am extremely shocked, hurt, and angry.

I had planned to sell my condo this spring and get a new place together with him, now all that is changed.

I nearly resigned as SOFA yesterday, but I have decided to stick it out.  It gives me something to do that takes my mind off things.  Resigning during an election would cause a bit of a crisis here.

Two things I need to make my life complete- a job, and a boyfriend.  I finally got the job, now I lost the boyfriend.  I can't seem to have both things at the same time.

Maybe I'll just give up on this relationship stuff, I always seem to get hurt in the end.

Thanks for listening to me rant.

Jim, aka Fritz

[John Dibble]

Well that kind of thing always sucks. Just remember, if things in life can hurt you this much it means there's things in life that make you feel good enough to make life worth living. I'm sure you'll find someone to make you happy again.

Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

[qwerty]

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope everything works out in your favor.

[ilikeverin]

Oh god!  That's awful!  He's really an idiot to do that.  I'm sure in a while, he'll wake up and smell the flowers, only to realize you've moved on.  Remember: it's not your problem, it's his.  You're just too nice (and judging by your reaction, too loving) for it to be your problem

(And, coming from a fellow commitment-freak, don't you dare give up.  We can just be single bums together )

[??????????]

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope everything works out in your favor.

No, tell us what you really think.

[Akno21]

Ouch. Hope all goes well in whatever you do next.

[minionofmidas]

This has nothing whatever to do with politics

It sure does. Everything is political.

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So now you see the economic deficits of monogamy.
I've never had a partner for more than about four months at a time...guess I can't feel your pain...guess I'm a commitment phobe...
I've been wedded to my hand for that long and more, though. Does that count?

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Crikes! The Atlas needs you!  I'm very, very glad and thankful you didn't resign.
I just hope you'll come to terms with being single, or find somebody else quickly.

[ilikeverin]

I just hope you'll come to terms with being single, or find somebody else quickly.

[hopeless romantic]You can't rush love[/hopeless romantic]

[John Dibble]

I just hope you'll come to terms with being single, or find somebody else quickly.

[hopeless romantic]You can't rush love[/hopeless romantic]

Rushing into a new relationship right after getting out of one is generally a very bad idea. I've seen it fail so many times. Better to give yourself some time to get comfortable, then go look for someone.

[King]

That's too bad Fritz. I'm sorry

I knew it was faulty relationship when I found out he was a Bush Republican!

[qwerty]

I knew it was faulty relationship when I found out he was a Bush Republican!

[The Duke]

That's rough.  Take some time off, go to Bermuda or something.  Whatever you do, don't go looking for a replacement too quickly and don't go back to the old flame.

[12th Doctor]

Sorry to hear that, man.  I hope that things work out for the best, regardless of what happens.  Gotta do what is best in these situtations.  Good Luck.

[qwerty]

I nearly resigned as SOFA yesterday, but I have decided to stick it out.  It gives me something to do that takes my mind off things.  Resigning during an election would cause a bit of a crisis here.

Seriously, and I'm not saying this in my normal smartass fashion - get a real life. Get out there, find another guy, or whatever, get a hobby, go fishing, whatever - but get a real life away from this stupid fantasy politics garbage. You are old enough to have children the age of most of the participants.

[Platypus]

Damn.

There isn't much advice I can give you, and I can't sympathise with you because i've never had the same happen to me, but I can say that whatever goes on in your head at the moment is about as honest as you'll get with yourself, so take the advice your brain gives you now.

Did that make sense? :S

[Gabu]

Ouch.  I can sympathize at least to a certain extent; I've had a relationship suddenly end when I thought it was going somewhere.

My advice would be just to leave things be for a while.  I've been single for almost one and a half years now, and I'm doing fine.  Most extremely successful relationships didn't come about as a result of one person actively looking for someone else, although it can happen.