what do you do when you desire something that you cannot have?

[© tweed]

coping mechanisms?

[JohnnyLongtorso]

I play video games.

[© tweed]

yes, there is always escapism in all its forms, but I am seeking something more long the lines of acceptance.

[CLARENCE 2015!]

Who is the girl?

[Eraserhead]

Jerk off.

[🐒Gods of Prosperity🔱🐲💸]

denial/cognitive dissonance

[© tweed]

Jerk off.

yes, there is always escapism in all its forms, but I am seeking something more long the lines of acceptance.

Who is the girl?

she eludes any sort of short summation; she's been a part of my life for more than five years.  she actually made one post here a long long time ago with the username "nj is for lovers"

[© tweed]

i think she's pretty but not even close to hot. you guys have got to agree with me. sure she's got a nice body, but that's not everything...

[Joe Biden 2020]

First thing I do is pray.  I recall every blessing that God has given me and recall every time I desired something, but He said no and gave me something better (that just happened yesterday).  Then, I submit my will to God's perfect plan that if He says no to a desire of mine, its because A) I'm not ready for it, B) what I desire would actually hurt me, or C) He has something better for me.  Second, I sing hymns of praise to my God.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

I try to get have it anyway, but without getting hurt in the process.

[I'm JewCon in name only.]

First thing I do is pray.  I recall every blessing that God has given me and recall every time I desired something, but He said no and gave me something better (that just happened yesterday).  Then, I submit my will to God's perfect plan that if He says no to a desire of mine, its because A) I'm not ready for it, B) what I desire would actually hurt me, or C) He has something better for me.  Second, I sing hymns of praise to my God.

i like this post.

Hm....me, specifically, I try to get it and it usually hurts me in the end lol. Good thing im not very materialistic.

[Redalgo]

As a less serious response, at times I get bored and do this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHg5SJYRHA0

Otherwise escapism and acceptance seems to work out fine.

[greenforest32]

I'm picturing Tweed in his apartment holding his head in frustration

Tell us more about her and your feelings

Bonus points for video (youtube) format

[Grumpier Than Thou]

I write a lot when I go through these troubles. I also sleep and cry a lot.

Btw, is her username a reference to the Hawthorne Heights song "Ohio Is For Lovers" by any chance?

[Smash255]

First thing I do is pray.  I recall every blessing that God has given me and recall every time I desired something, but He said no and gave me something better (that just happened yesterday).  Then, I submit my will to God's perfect plan that if He says no to a desire of mine, its because A) I'm not ready for it, B) what I desire would actually hurt me, or C) He has something better for me.  Second, I sing hymns of praise to my God.

Umm.....

[Joe Biden 2020]

First thing I do is pray.  I recall every blessing that God has given me and recall every time I desired something, but He said no and gave me something better (that just happened yesterday).  Then, I submit my will to God's perfect plan that if He says no to a desire of mine, its because A) I'm not ready for it, B) what I desire would actually hurt me, or C) He has something better for me.  Second, I sing hymns of praise to my God.

Umm.....

What's so weird about that?

[© tweed]

Btw, is her username a reference to the Hawthorne Heights song "Ohio Is For Lovers" by any chance?

she has never scrobbled a Hawthorne Heights song so it would appear not.

[King]

I defriend it on Facebook.

[AndrewTX]

Jerk off.

This. So many mistakes can be saved by this.

[Oakvale]

Btw, is her username a reference to the Hawthorne Heights song "Ohio Is For Lovers" by any chance?

lol

[Reginald]

But seriously now, I try to just completely rid it (whatever it is) from my mind. It's not ever effective, of course, but it's always better for me to not incessantly dwell on it. I'm generally a very passive person, so if something's out of reach, then to attempt to accept its inaccessibility is to repress, repress, repress.

[Grumpier Than Thou]

Woah man...that's taking it too far. That's...ouch.

Btw, is her username a reference to the Hawthorne Heights song "Ohio Is For Lovers" by any chance?

lol

Shhhhhhhh

[Gustaf]

If you know that you can't have it, then I think the mechanism is to just put it out of your mind and do other stuff. Keep occupied with other things. Eventually it goes away.

That's not necessarily easy though, I'll grant you that. Being around other people usually helps though.

[anvi]

This, according to early Buddhists, is the first possible outcome of any desire.  The second is getting something you desire, but then losing it.  The third is getting something you desire, being happy with it for a while, and then getting bored with it, prompting you only to find another object of desire to pursue.  This is why the Buddhists think living life as a pursuer of desires can never lead to lasting contentment.

[Ban my account ffs!]

There is no shortcut to acceptance.  That'll take as long as it'll take.  In the meantime... escape!  And know that, like all things, this too shall pass.