Sure, but it was work - it did not come naturally. The way I handled it, and do handle it, is that I pretend that I am in a stage play, and consider it all a theatrical performance. As many actors will tell you, when the klieg lights go on, they become a different person. They may be naturally shy, but when acting, it is not about them, it is all about the performance. I actually try to choreograph some of the "scenes" in advance. Anyway, now that I am very contented with my life, and myself, and quite happy, it is somewhat less work.
And yes, it does not take too much foreplay at all to get my pants off.
Part of schmoozing is acting. You're purposely talking about inane things for the purpose of conversation that is pleasant and non-confrontational.
Around here it is such an integral part of life, that pretty much anybody can do it. People think it's fake... no.. it makes for a truly better society. Why? Because people who talk to each other for no reason at all also tend to talk to people when they have a reason to.
Just the other day the girl who cut my hair told me she lost a newborn to SIDS. That's a tragedy and in most places, they would never share such a personal thing. But it's obviously how she helps cope and deal with it. She talks about it to people and people offer her sympathy.
This candidness with communication leads to a society that "works".
