What was your favorite #1 hit in 2013?

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Hate Blurred Lines completely... most Misogynist song I have ever heard... and thought we were in 2013.

Thank you

God, stop being such Liberals. I suppose you hate rap music for that reason too. Robin Thicke has three ways with Paula Patton. Have you f[inks]ing seen Paula Patton? That gives him a free pass to say what ever he wants in any song.

...except saying that he doesn't need a girl's consent in order to have sex with her. Could you imagine what that might do to a rape victim who just hears the song on the radio? "I know you want it, you're a good girl" is definitely not just a bubbly little lyric in a song, it's something that a rapist says. I don't care if it's Robin Thicke or Macklemore (whom I quite enjoy) or even Enter Shikari. Any band or artist that has lyrical content establishing sexual consent as an arbitrary boundary should be condemned.

And rap does have a problem with misogyny, yes. As does Grand Theft Auto 5 (which I just got for Christmas, and I'm appalled at how they just throw around the word 'rape' like it's just a slang word) But the thing about rap and GTA5 is that it's been a fight for years. Robin Thicke was never ever a misogynist, and all of the sudden he releases this song about not needing consent for sex. And I'm not excusing it in rap or GTA5, because it's wrong there too.

Robin Thicke doesn't need to be burned at the stake, he just needs to admit that the content to the song that has net him a f--kton of money is really, really awful.

I doubt Robin Thicke made that song as a rape anthem; judging by all of the lyrics, it's actually just about a "good girl" who is sexually repressed.

Also, even though "I know you want it" is a stereotypical rapist excuse, there are many songs that can trigger bad memories in a rape victim for any possible reason, but we can't demonize every artist whose song was heard while someone was being raped and thus triggered that person forever afterwards. It's up to the victim to accept any help and therapy they can get and become stronger and able to put up with any triggers they may face.

Now I hope this ends that debate. Wasn't this a music thread? Oh yes, I vote "Thrift Shop".

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So cause of this whole tumblr thing y'all are going on about, let me tell you why I hate the song Blurred Lines.

My best friend was raped a few years ago, she never told anyone, she was ashamed and thought that it was her fault, that she triggered the attack and the rape. She was told to be quiet, the rapist told her that "You know you want it, what girl doesn't want to get laid?", she kept yelling for him to stop, but I guess telling someone "no" isn't a clear answer, they must want to have sex with you! In the song he refers to many things her attacker did to her, and the first time she heard the song in the radio, she had a panic attack and started crying uncontrollably, and I asked her what was wrong, and she explained what happened in 2011. Every time she hears the song she has a panic attack remembering what happened, and this song is the reason she has to be reminded of the traumatic event. I love her, she's like my sister, but this song has traumatized her and I don't know why someone would like a song after knowing her, and why it triggers these awful memories.

And she's not the only one, there are millions of women in the United States who have been raped and the song triggers awful memories, and this song is saying women want to have sex, that she really wants it, if she says no she really doesn't mean it, cause the word "no" is ambiguous, and I have nothing but hatred for this song and the terrible men who created it.

I'm terribly sorry to hear about what happened to your friend, and she is incredibly strong for persevering through what happened to her.

I feel awful for your friend, I really do, especially since I was also raped years ago and I have had to work very hard at dealing with my own triggers and coming to terms with the fact that I can't expect everyone else to be sensitive all the time.

I wasn't around for this, but people said the same thing back in the 80's about Judas Priest, that listening to their music triggered people who had attempted suicide or who lost a loved one to suicide. We now know that Judas Priest had nothing to do with anyone's suicide.

Also, AC/DC got sh**t for their song "Night Prowler" because that's what the media took to calling Richard Ramirez once he went to trial. Again, AC/DC had nothing to do with serial killing.

I understand that you're not going to like the song, I get that, but I can't help but feel that you and millions of other people have misplaced the blame when it comes to rape culture.
I'm only posting this because I am asking you to make sure your friend gets some kind of therapy, whether she has to pay for it or call a helpline everyday or whatever. She may be facing triggers her whole life, but you can help her avoid that by urging her to get professional help. If she's strong enough to tell you about it, she's strong enough to take that step and get help.