if you are over 30...

[WalterMitty]

option 3.

im an adult.  so is the person im in a relationship with.

[Antonio the Sixth]

Does anyone do that ever (outside of Oklahoma)?

[The world will shine with light in our nightmare]

I would ask both parents, personally, regardless of age.

[Snowstalker Mk. II]

No, because I assume that whoever I marry (if I marry) would be an adult who can make her own independent decisions (not Oklahoman).

[Cincinnatus]

Once again Atlas shows how emotionally immature its users are.  How is your girlfriends relationship with her Father?  If it's a good one you don't disrespect the father if it would be culturally impaired of you to do so.  Just don't.  Besides, if you're really lucky the old man might give you a grandmothers ring for the deed.

[The world will shine with light in our nightmare]

I like how nine people so far don't give a damn if their in-laws dislike them.

[Antonio the Sixth]

I like how nine people so far don't give a damn if their in-laws dislike them.

Why should anyone give a damn? Love is about the two people who are in love, and nobody else.

[memphis]

If she specifically asked me to, sure. A lot of women are into the "traditional" marriage schtick, and this one doesn't cost a lot of money or even constitute that big of hassle. Sometimes you do silly things to make other people happy. That's a big part of what love is all about.
As it happens, one of my best female friends, dared me to ask her Dad that very question when we were in high school just as a practical joke. So, I did. It was a pretty funny moment. Teenaged girls often like to torment their fathers.

[The world will shine with light in our nightmare]

I like how nine people so far don't give a damn if their in-laws dislike them.

Why should anyone give a damn? Love is about the two people who are in love, and nobody else.

Well, just don't expect your Thanksgiving dinner guest list to be a very long one.  If that fails, just brace yourself for the worst.

[Atlas Has Shrugged]

I'd certainly inform the potential in-laws of the question before I pop it.

[I spent the winter writing songs about getting better]

The premise is downright revolting at any adult age. Let me clarify though that there is a large difference between simply informing your future in-laws and actually asking for "permission".

[Wake Me Up When The Hard Border Ends]

Yes I would, I'm quite old-fashioned like that.

[7,052,770]

If my wife had wanted me to, I would have. She tossed the idea around but ultimately decided it wasn't necessary. I was relieved.

[Fmr President & Senator Polnut]

It suggests that it's her father's permission that matters - not what she wants.

Put it this way, if parental consent were so important, I would not marry them.

[dead0man]

I like how nine people so far don't give a damn if their in-laws dislike them.

I've been married twice, didn't ask father either time, both sets of in-laws love me.....even the divorced ones.

[badgate]

No, but I would go to the parents and posthumously ask if my fiancé wanted me to.

[The Dowager Mod]

Wouldn't be legal to marry a gf here anyway, so nope.

[FEMA Camp Administrator]

No, because I assume that whoever I marry (if I marry) would be an adult who can make her own independent decisions (not Oklahoman).

Let's face facts here, you're not getting married.

[Fmr President & Senator Polnut]

No, because I assume that whoever I marry (if I marry) would be an adult who can make her own independent decisions (not Oklahoman).

Let's face facts here, you're not getting married.

Cathy wins...

[Badger]

I was in my mid-30's when I popped the question, and did exactly that beforehand. It's respect. As my father-in-law is likely going to pass any day, I'm glad I did.

Mind you, unless said father of the girlfriend gave some really good reasons to change the suitor's mind, no one should ever be actually stopped by the father's disapproval.

[Dr. Cynic]

I think Rod's ok with me.