Badger, lots of little convenienves we all take for granted are hard to come by in NYC, and especially in Manhattan. Consider forgoing a washer and dryer in your home, convenient parking, central air conditioning, fresh air and personal space. I get that New York exudes energy and that appeals to some people, but living there has got to be the biggest damn hassle ever. The doorman is just the tip of the iceberg.
The parking issue is neither here nor there because you don't need a car. And, some people do have convenient parking. I think public housing parking is $20 per year. And, I don't have a washer or dryer, it's not a big issue. It's actually nice in a way because I never do laundry.
Essentially, you're lamenting that New Yorker don't get to participate in chores. Getting your oil changed, mowing your lawn, doing tons of laundry, fixing things up around your house, sitting in traffic, adjusting the acid level in your backyard pool, shovelling snow... Those are chores. I'm glad we get to largely avoid those chores.
The general point of space and air is valid. However, I think many Americans have just become accustomed to a giant home. You don't need 800 sq ft of space per person. Living in more modest lifestyle in terms of space and material possessions isn't the end of the world. Ultimately, material possessions are worthless and the only valuable thing is your life experience.