Hooray for males on internet arguing about what feminists want under the sheets.
I recognize that different women want different things under different circumstances because they are different people. Others seem to take another view, thinking that sex, and indeed any facet of life remotely related to interaction with the opposite sex, must be traumatic for all women in all contexts because Women Are Very Fragile. If one of these people wants to dodge his own very problematic (and frankly, misogynistic) position and instead focus on ad hominems, that's his prerogative.
I think that if you understood feminism better you might realize that we kind of oppose abusing people more generally. Fragile or not.