The Democrats were definitely NOT pro-gay in the 90's at all, Clinton signed DADT and hardly any democrat spoke in support of gays. Really it wasn't until around 2006 or 2008 that Democrats really started being supportive of gays. '
I never said they were pro-gay.
The problem was that society hated gays, and Democrats were "meh". Republicans used the issue of gay rights as a political weapon against Democrats, and it paid off in the 1990s.
Not quite. Polling in the early 1990s show that, except for the "marriage" question, the majority of Americans outside the South already come to agree with the gay rights movement (even
Idaho rejected a anti-homosexuality ballot measure in
1994!). Because Clinton entertained a fantasy that the Democrats could revive in the South, he swung like a roller coaster on the issue his entire presidency.