Update for Everyone IV - Hungover

[Antonio the Sixth]

I'm just really shy, but I am working up to it

Really? I know people often act very differently online than IRL, but I never would have guessed!

As someone who used to be very shy (I'm still socially awkward, but things have gotten a lot better in the past few years), I can assure you that overcoming it is absolutely worth the effort. Good luck!

[Santander]

I'm just really shy, but I am working up to it

Really? I know people often act very differently online than IRL, but I never would have guessed!

As someone who used to be very shy (I'm still socially awkward, but things have gotten a lot better in the past few years), I can assure you that overcoming it is absolutely worth the effort. Good luck!

Introverts tend to put more effort into their writing.

[Intell]

Your time on this rock is too short and tenuous to not go after something that has a chance at being so great!

If you have good reasons to believe you have a chance, I think you can at least be (diplomatically) honest with her and see if she's interested in at least seeing where that might go. I'm the last person who has any business giving out advice on these things (OK... next to last, after Cathcon ), but at least that's what I'd do.

I'm just really shy, but I am working up to it

..And I swear Cathcon can be so comically dispiriting sometimes

Thanks guuuyysss~!

So am I. Good luck.

[SUSAN CRUSHBONE]

I'm just really shy, but I am working up to it

Really? I know people often act very differently online than IRL, but I never would have guessed!

this is atlas; my default assumption is that everyone is somewhere between "a bit shy" and "cripplingly antisocial"

[Anna Komnene]

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I'm just really shy, but I am working up to it

..And I swear Cathcon can be so comically dispiriting sometimes

Thanks guuuyysss~!

Good luck!  Pretty sure I know how you feel.  Rejection is scary and hurts, but the thing is, sometimes they say yes.  The feeling when that happens makes all the other times worth it.    Still, I don't want to push you into it.  You still have to decide if you're ready, and only you can do that!

[Antonio the Sixth]

I'm just really shy, but I am working up to it

Really? I know people often act very differently online than IRL, but I never would have guessed!

this is atlas; my default assumption is that everyone is somewhere between "a bit shy" and "cripplingly antisocial"

From what I've heard, antisocial people are often very well adjusted.

[Blair]

Just got back from seeing Book of Mormon with the boi, was one of the best shows I've seen for a while

[Virginiá]

Really? I know people often act very differently online than IRL, but I never would have guessed!

I'm sure if I explained my childhood/adolescence it would make a lot of sense. As for here - Well, it's easy to be open on the Internet. I'm sure everyone knows that. It's the best part!


@Siren Thank yous! I'm going to move this along this week/end I think. I have very good feelings about this. It's just been such a long time. Embarrassingly long, actually

[Antonio the Sixth]

I'm sure if I explained my childhood/adolescence it would make a lot of sense.

My teenage years (roughly 11-14) were pretty terrible as well, but I can imagine you might be talking about even worse stuff. Hope things are better these days.

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It's easy but it's not always without risk, as I learned at my expense over the past few years. I'm not sharing much of anything personal on the forum these days.

By all means don't change your posting style though! I think it's the perfect balance.

[Tender Branson]

I have this week off from work.

So, I already took my car to the repair center this morning for the annual routine check.

After 7 years, they probably need to replace the brakes and everything, which means I'm going to pay a lot for this (400-600€ I guess).

Drove back home with my bike.

Paid 360€ (400$).

The new brakes incl. new brake fluid cost 120€ each, the mandatory inspection for the car 40€ and the work costs for the mechanic was 80€.

Not that bad.

[Antonio the Sixth]

There have been two fires in the hinterland near where I am living right now, in the past four days. Everyone who knows anything about these things told me they were not accidental.

[LLR]

It's gonna be 97º tomorrow... ugh. At least I have an excuse to not go outside...
In other news, my parents are really bummed about Kaine.

[Classic Conservative]

It's gonna be 97º tomorrow... ugh. At least I have an excuse to not go outside...
In other news, my parents are really bummed about Kaine.

Why are they bummed are they still going to vote for her?

[LLR]

It's gonna be 97º tomorrow... ugh. At least I have an excuse to not go outside...
In other news, my parents are really bummed about Kaine.

Why are they bummed are they still going to vote for her?

Yeah they'll vote for her, but my dad doesn't like the TPP stuff and the banks stuff. I've made my peace with it and moved on.

[SATW]

im drunk guys. #woowoo

[Antonio the Sixth]

It's gonna be 97º tomorrow... ugh. At least I have an excuse to not go outside...

What do you mean? It's the perfect weather to go outside.

I, unfortunately, am back to the cold latitudes of the Paris area, which means I've said goodbye to the warm sun of Southern Italy for another year.

[LLR]

It's gonna be 97º tomorrow... ugh. At least I have an excuse to not go outside...

What do you mean? It's the perfect weather to go outside.

I, unfortunately, am back to the cold latitudes of the Paris area, which means I've said goodbye to the warm sun of Southern Italy for another year.

That's a New York 97, so that's humid and gross as hell.

[Antonio the Sixth]

Fair enough.

[Virginiá]

We are now semi-officially dating!

I cooked her dinner and told her how I feel, and despite my conflicting inner thoughts, it was what it appeared to be! As I told someone else earlier today, ironically, it was a straight girl hitting on a practically-a-lesbian girl, with me being almost oblivious at first and later too shy to reciprocate, lol. I had been wondering how I got so lucky, but it turns out she had a crush on me from months ago when we met at a party, which again I did not even realize (given her personality it should have been obvious). It's just been so freakin long since I've dated that I think I am not even on the same wavelength as anyone anymore.

However, despite my happiness (and I am happy -  the most I have been in a long time), there are a lot of pitfalls here. She is straight, her family is pretty religious and she doesn't want anyone else in her life to know about us yet. Worse yet, she is very clearly unsure if she is doing the right thing here. I've had enough experience both personally and from friends to know that this kind of volatility is probably going to leave me devastated at some point, which is why I just can't shake this feeling that I've made a big mistake..

[LLR]

We are now semi-officially dating!

I cooked her dinner and told her how I feel, and despite my conflicting inner thoughts, it was what it appeared to be! As I told someone else earlier today, ironically, it was a straight girl hitting on a practically-a-lesbian girl, with me being almost oblivious at first and later too shy to reciprocate, lol. I had been wondering how I got so lucky, but it turns out she had a crush on me from months ago when we met at a party, which again I did not even realize (given her personality it should have been obvious). It's just been so freakin long since I've dated that I think I am not even on the same wavelength as anyone anymore.

However, despite my happiness (and I am happy -  the most I have been in a long time), there are a lot of pitfalls here. She is straight, her family is pretty religious and she doesn't want anyone else in her life to know about us yet. Worse yet, she is very clearly unsure if she is doing the right thing here. I've had enough experience both personally and from friends to know that this kind of volatility is probably going to leave me devastated at some point, which is why I just can't shake this feeling that I've made a big mistake..

Congrats!

[Antonio the Sixth]

We are now semi-officially dating!

I cooked her dinner and told her how I feel, and despite my conflicting inner thoughts, it was what it appeared to be! As I told someone else earlier today, ironically, it was a straight girl hitting on a practically-a-lesbian girl, with me being almost oblivious at first and later too shy to reciprocate, lol. I had been wondering how I got so lucky, but it turns out she had a crush on me from months ago when we met at a party, which again I did not even realize (given her personality it should have been obvious). It's just been so freakin long since I've dated that I think I am not even on the same wavelength as anyone anymore.

However, despite my happiness (and I am happy -  the most I have been in a long time), there are a lot of pitfalls here. She is straight, her family is pretty religious and she doesn't want anyone else in her life to know about us yet. Worse yet, she is very clearly unsure if she is doing the right thing here. I've had enough experience both personally and from friends to know that this kind of volatility is probably going to leave me devastated at some point, which is why I just can't shake this feeling that I've made a big mistake..

This is wonderful! I wish you all the best. I realize that these are serious hurdles and that there's a chance everything might end badly, but I genuinely think you should put all your efforts into it. Of course you can't make that decision for her, but you can definitely guide her and stand by her if she decides to come out.

Again I know I'm not saying anything useful, but I just really hope this ends well.

[Virginiá]

Again I know I'm not saying anything useful, but I just really hope this ends well.

Thanks Antonio . Encouragement is useful!

Hopefully when I'm done worrying about how precarious this relationship is, I can start enjoying it!

[Anna Komnene]

You go girl!  I hope she is everything you dreamed of and more. 

[President of the great nation of 🏳️‍⚧️]

Congratulations, Virginia!

[Mike Thick]

We are now semi-officially dating!

I cooked her dinner and told her how I feel, and despite my conflicting inner thoughts, it was what it appeared to be! As I told someone else earlier today, ironically, it was a straight girl hitting on a practically-a-lesbian girl, with me being almost oblivious at first and later too shy to reciprocate, lol. I had been wondering how I got so lucky, but it turns out she had a crush on me from months ago when we met at a party, which again I did not even realize (given her personality it should have been obvious). It's just been so freakin long since I've dated that I think I am not even on the same wavelength as anyone anymore.

However, despite my happiness (and I am happy -  the most I have been in a long time), there are a lot of pitfalls here. She is straight, her family is pretty religious and she doesn't want anyone else in her life to know about us yet. Worse yet, she is very clearly unsure if she is doing the right thing here. I've had enough experience both personally and from friends to know that this kind of volatility is probably going to leave me devastated at some point, which is why I just can't shake this feeling that I've made a big mistake..