Would you feel discomfort if your child dated a person of another race?

[JA]

I would like honest answers, so do not feel compelled to make yours public. I am simply curious what the results of this question will be.

[Intell]

Yes.

[Maxwell]

None at all (has no racial preference in his own dating life, incidentally)

[Sprouts Farmers Market ✘]

I would be quite horrified if my baby ever dated a Gentile. I don't know if it could be outright forbidden however.

[MAINEiac4434]

None at all (has no racial preference in his own dating life, incidentally)

[JA]

Yes.

Genuinely curious: why do you think you would feel discomfort in that situation?

[Kingpoleon]

This is probably the most blatantly question of "are you racist?" that I have ever heard. Although, my parents are different races, and I have two adopted cousins, one of whom is black and the other of whom is Native American, so that may effect my view of this.

[NeverAgain]

No, I don't care. Republicans on the other hand...

[Illiniwek]

Honestly, I might be a bit shocked at first, but I would get over it if the kid was cool. That's really all that matters.

[Mercenary]

As long as the person they date is a good person I couldnt care less what their race, ethnicity, income level, etc is.

[Intell]

Yes.

Genuinely curious: why do you think you would feel discomfort in that situation?

Not a discomfort, the partner could be a lovely person, but a lineage of nepali culture, of blood of nepali ethnicity would be, to some extent be destroyed. Every generation, forthcoming would be less entrenched and more departed from nepali culture, where I was born, where my blood and heart lays. The nepali language, would not be spoken, and there would be no essence of my grand children being being purely "nepali", culture, blood, ancestry etc.

[Intell]

This is probably the most blatantly question of "are you racist?" that I have ever heard. Although, my parents are different races, and I have two adopted cousins, one of whom is black and the other of whom is Native American, so that may effect my view of this.

No.

[DavidB.]

Different race, no. They can date a Jew of any race or background. Ashkenazi, Mizrahi, Ethiopian, doesn't make a difference to me. But it would be very important to be that they'd be dating Jews.

[Intell]

Different race, no. They can date a Jew of any race or background. Ashkenazi, Mizrahi, Ethiopian, doesn't make a difference to me. But it would be very important to be that they'd be dating Jews.

Would it matter if it was a jew by lineage/ethnicity who is an atheist, or a jew who converted into the religion?

[DavidB.]

Different race, no. They can date a Jew of any race or background. Ashkenazi, Mizrahi, Ethiopian, doesn't make a difference to me. But it would be very important to be that they'd be dating Jews.

Would it matter if it was a jew by lineage/ethnicity who is an atheist, or a jew who converted into the religion?

It doesn't matter to me if someone is a convert or a Jew by birth, a Jew is a Jew.

I would prefer my children to marry religious or traditional Jews and not atheist Jews, however, because this would be in line with the way I hope to raise my children. It would be very hard for my child to stay religious and to raise their kids the traditional way if their partner were a Jewish atheist. However, marrying an atheist Jew is certainly preferrable to marrying a non-Jew.

[JA]

Yes.

Genuinely curious: why do you think you would feel discomfort in that situation?

Not a discomfort, the partner could be a lovely person, but a lineage of nepali culture, of blood of nepali ethnicity would be, to some extent be destroyed. Every generation, forthcoming would be less entrenched and more departed from nepali culture, where I was born, where my blood and heart lays. The nepali language, would not be spoken, and there would be no essence of my grand children being being purely "nepali", culture, blood, ancestry etc.

That raises a difficult question of: at what point does desire to preserve culture and traditions become a form of racism? I am not accusing you of being racist, but it is a gray area.

DavidB,

I am curious of your opinion on this as well.

[Santander]

This is literally the worst forum to ask this question.

[Sprouts Farmers Market ✘]

Yes.

Genuinely curious: why do you think you would feel discomfort in that situation?

Not a discomfort, the partner could be a lovely person, but a lineage of nepali culture, of blood of nepali ethnicity would be, to some extent be destroyed. Every generation, forthcoming would be less entrenched and more departed from nepali culture, where I was born, where my blood and heart lays. The nepali language, would not be spoken, and there would be no essence of my grand children being being purely "nepali", culture, blood, ancestry etc.

That raises a difficult question of: at what point does desire to preserve culture and traditions become a form of racism? I am not accusing you of being racist, but it is a gray area.

DavidB,

I am curious of your opinion on this as well.

Preserving culture isn't racism. Willfully destroying culture is.

[JA]

Yes.

Genuinely curious: why do you think you would feel discomfort in that situation?

Not a discomfort, the partner could be a lovely person, but a lineage of nepali culture, of blood of nepali ethnicity would be, to some extent be destroyed. Every generation, forthcoming would be less entrenched and more departed from nepali culture, where I was born, where my blood and heart lays. The nepali language, would not be spoken, and there would be no essence of my grand children being being purely "nepali", culture, blood, ancestry etc.

That raises a difficult question of: at what point does desire to preserve culture and traditions become a form of racism? I am not accusing you of being racist, but it is a gray area.

DavidB,

I am curious of your opinion on this as well.

Preserving culture isn't racism. Willfully destroying culture is.

I was not saying it is racism. I was asking where the line is drawn between racism/bigotry and cultural preservation.

[🦀🎂🦀🎂]

Different race, no. They can date a Jew of any race or background. Ashkenazi, Mizrahi, Ethiopian, doesn't make a difference to me. But it would be very important to be that they'd be dating Jews.

Given Matrilineality, would you accept a daughter dating a Gentile?

[RINO Tom]

No, I don't care. Republicans on the other hand...

True, zero racist Democrats out there!  Hack city.

Anyway, I answered no.  However, I think it'd take some getting used to if my kid dated someone of a totally different cultural outlook, but race wouldn't matter at all.

[Zioneer]

No. If I had a child I'd prefer they dated a Mormon, of any race, however.

[dead0man]

none at all (half my kids ain't the same race as my anyway)

[DavidB.]

Given Matrilineality, would you accept a daughter dating a Gentile?

Dating a Jew would always be preferrable over dating a non-Jew, but I could think of cases where it would not be extremely problematic for a daughter to date a non-Jewish man as it would be for a son to date a non-Jewish woman, yes. I don't think any of this is about "accepting", though: once grown up, children are autonomous people who make their own decisions and as a parent you will have to "accept" that, whether you like their decisions or not.

That raises a difficult question of: at what point does desire to preserve culture and traditions become a form of racism? I am not accusing you of being racist, but it is a gray area.

DavidB,

I am curious of your opinion on this as well.

I don't really know, but I'm very reluctant in calling people's dating preferences racist because I think it is legitimate for people to select their partners on about every criterion they want to use for any or no reason.

[Frodo]

None, because I myself am of mixed race.  And even if I wasn't, I still wouldn't have any issue with it.