that's the defintion of legality, not morality.
Nah, not even the definition of legality. It's the definition of morality to many of us secular folk. The law is perfectly happy to sit idly by while you smoke and drink yourself to death with independent children. On the same token, it's happy to allow parents to do virtually anything short of beat their children to death without legal intervention. That ain't legality.
in your case, beatings are understandable
Yeah, I'd whup me too
It doesn't count if you enjoy it.