Bushie: The Final Frontier - Update Season V

[Brittain33]

Seriously, drinking water, not eating out (both things which will also help with his health) and giving up on cable (which is a scam) is not extreme.

It is not extreme but it is framed in a way to be a ridiculous exercise in being penny wise and pound foolish. Paying mortgages and rents simultaneously, moving around the country, jetting off to Kenya...that is a whole lotta V8. And to repeat the theme this like is treating a gunshot victim for their diabetes and discharging them.

Telling someone to only drink water is not viable.

[Brittain33]

And let's remember... he's not even enrolled yet.  To my knowledge, he hasn't even applied to a school.

Also, I bet he's still drinking V8 rather than water.

[Brittain33]

What's the motivation for people to offer advice or correction?

It doesn't matter. Whatever Bushie's problems, they are beyond the impact of anyone calling him out. If he's going to change, it will be because his family and friends stop enabling him. Not going to happen unless and until his parents pass away.

Posting in response to him for the frisson you get from being right and identifying someone as wrong is not helpful--even if you are right.

[Brittain33]

And let's remember... he's not even enrolled yet.  To my knowledge, he hasn't even applied to a school.

Also, I bet he's still drinking V8 rather than water.

Actually I've been drinking on average 5-6 glasses of water a day.  I may have a glass of V8 every other evening.  I also try to limit my cokes to one at supper and only if I have had at least 4 glasses of water that day.

You should enjoy your V8. It's not significant in the grand scheme of things.

[Brittain33]

What's the motivation for people to offer advice or correction?

It doesn't matter. Whatever Bushie's problems, they are beyond the impact of anyone calling him out. If he's going to change, it will be because his family and friends stop enabling him. Not going to happen unless and until his parents pass away.

Posting in response to him for the frisson you get from being right and identifying someone as wrong is not helpful--even if you are right.

It doesn't hurt either though.

It's cruel, because he is more aware than people acknowledge of how stuck he is, and is hard on himself, and is still not able to find a way out.

[Brittain33]

I find this incredibly hypocritical, selfish, illogical, stupid, and irrational:

He's just a guy you don't really know. Whether you're right or not, let it go.

[Brittain33]

I find this incredibly hypocritical, selfish, illogical, stupid, and irrational:

He's just a guy you don't really know. Whether you're right or not, let it go.

He's posting his stories here... it's a forum, not a podcast.  We're free to interact with him, and if he doesn't like it, he can take his Update elsewhere.

You're free to do what you like, sure. But let's not pretend you're helping him or that it's concern for him that makes you keep going.

[Brittain33]

Nobody is going to pay Bushie >$11/hour for his time. And he knows it. Like Kenya and trade school and the rest, it's just an excuse not to look for work.

He reminds me of Eddie in Christmas Vacation, where his wife tells Clark Griswald that he's been out of work for years because he's holding out for a management position.  Eddie lost his house and is living in a trailer, spending a month with Clark because his family is out of gas and money.  He pretends everything is fine, but his life is a mess.  Although at least Eddie was active enough to be in the military... Bushie would never do that.

Do you know people like this in real life?

[Brittain33]

Nobody is going to pay Bushie >$11/hour for his time. And he knows it. Like Kenya and trade school and the rest, it's just an excuse not to look for work.

He reminds me of Eddie in Christmas Vacation, where his wife tells Clark Griswald that he's been out of work for years because he's holding out for a management position.  Eddie lost his house and is living in a trailer, spending a month with Clark because his family is out of gas and money.  He pretends everything is fine, but his life is a mess.  Although at least Eddie was active enough to be in the military... Bushie would never do that.

Do you know people like this in real life?

I've seen people mooch off of others, but I can't think of anybody as bad as Jeff's case.

I know people who are far worse (at least in terms of the $ they burn through) and without the circle of friends to keep them going. But the same detachment from the truth, the self-deception, the rationalizations and plans.

[Brittain33]

Your attachment to these children is unnatural and unhealthy.

Whether or not this is true--and I don't disagree with the forum consensus on his relationship with these kids--I would say the same about your own need to discipline and berate Jeff.

[Brittain33]

Your attachment to these children is unnatural and unhealthy.

Whether or not this is true--and I don't disagree with the forum consensus on his relationship with these kids--I would say the same about your own need to discipline and berate Jeff.

Discipline?  Not sure what that means...

Telling him he should only drink water, for example.