Personally, after seeing the generation before absolutely decimated by divorce and unhappiness stemming from making the wrong decision, I'm a lot less likely to jump into marriage as my parents were. And so are my friends, it seems. It doesn't mean we won't get married, but it does mean we'll be having fewer children later, and it means that any marriage we do create will be stronger than something slapped together by a 16-year-old and a 17-year-old because the dude accidentally got one past the goalkeeper.
Not that I can get married, of course. Just an observation.
It somewhat depends on the person. My family has a long history of divorce, some times multiple divorces. My parents divorced when I was young, my mom has been married three times, etc., and it quite frankly sucks. However, this doesn't make me want to avoid marriage or have fewer kids, or what have you. It makes me want to
do it right. It makes me want to prove that it can be done, that having a successful lifelong marriage is not some relic of the past. Some of that is in finding the right person, but I believe it's mostly in your attitude toward your relationships. If you view your relationships/marriage as something to work on, to cultivate, to sacrifice for, to try to fix rather than replace, and your partner does too, then there is no reason in the world why it can't be done. The trick is in the perspective.
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