Well this was fun. First of all, I think jumping on fezzyfestoon for his comments and some of the implications that he’s in the same league as a homophobe was one of the most bizarre things I have ever read on here. It was unmerited. At the risk of exposing myself to similar accusations
I also have reservations, as a gay man, about
individual claims of asexuality. In some cases (as has later been proven) a self labelled ‘asexual’ can be someone in denial about their homosexuality or bisexuality because of a personal or religiously driven discomfort over non vaginal sexual acts or intimacy. I am not for one second suggesting this applies to anyone on the forum, but merely pointing out observations from my own experiences. As a result, while there is nothing pathological about asexuality in that it isn’t a sexual disorder, claims of asexuality from some people can be nothing more than a ‘closet’, in the same way in which in claims of heterosexuality can also be a ‘closet.’
Part of what I think fezzy may have been trying to say is that we know from studies by the Kinsey Institute that some asexuals are not entirely sexually inhibited but comfortable with sexual release through masturbation but less comfortable or with less desire for sexual intimacy with another person. People are often too keen to compartmentalise their sexuality; the same goes for gays and straights too. For those with a degree of social awkwardness, you may have a generally ‘sexless’ life until the point in life where for whatever reason, you simply don’t.