Opinion of Matthew 5:28

[afleitch]

From the beginning of thought to the beginning of action is but a second; so I think philosophically and morally it is sound. Practically? Perhaps unlikely....

The suggestion that leering at someone is literally morally tantamount to adultery is probably hyperbole, but it's definitely not a good thing to do, and more straight men could stand to take that to heart. The idea that this verse is meant to impose obligations on women rather than on men is of course absolutely ridiculous and worthy of no serious consideration.

I understand the quote is given in the context of within a straight, patriarchal society, but I don’t really like how a large part of the “inclusive Church” has chosen to ignore the vices of lust and adultery in a lot of their moral teachings - sometimes to the point of excluding traditional and right (in my view) Christian ideas about relationships/sexual morality from applying to gay people.

A lot of 'inclusive' churches aren't inclusive as they don't support and offer same sex marriage within their church. So they've already sent the message that they don't support or recognise same sex commitment, so why hold same sex couples to the same standard?

Those that do support same sex marriage, and therefore bring same sex couples into the same covenant, I've never heard of them not applying the same standards and expectations of monogamy and mutual respect to same sex couples.

I'm tired of people 'berating' gays for not being monogamous, or having multiple partners when society did everything it could to discourage us from settling down and offering nothing to those who did while allowing straights not only marriage and tax benefits but 'privacy' in that marriage to be monogamous or in some cases not, and also offer easy divorce.

[afleitch]

Those that do support same sex marriage, and therefore bring same sex couples into the same covenant, I've never heard of them not applying the same standards and expectations of monogamy and mutual respect to same sex couples.

I'm tired of people 'berating' gays for not being monogamous, or having multiple partners when society did everything it could to discourage us from settling down and offering nothing to those who did while allowing straights not only marriage and tax benefits but 'privacy' in that marriage to be monogamous or in some cases not, and also offer easy divorce.

Wow. I’m not “berating gays”.... I’m saying that “leftist Christians” (to the extent I believe faith and politics are sadly intertwined) often dismiss even the concept of morality because it’s something proposed by the Religious Right.

I didn't say you were I also fail to see why affirming churches that allow for same sex marriage would not uphold the moral standards expected in marriage. Do you have any examples?

[afleitch]

Those that do support same sex marriage, and therefore bring same sex couples into the same covenant, I've never heard of them not applying the same standards and expectations of monogamy and mutual respect to same sex couples.

I'm tired of people 'berating' gays for not being monogamous, or having multiple partners when society did everything it could to discourage us from settling down and offering nothing to those who did while allowing straights not only marriage and tax benefits but 'privacy' in that marriage to be monogamous or in some cases not, and also offer easy divorce.

Wow. I’m not “berating gays”.... I’m saying that “leftist Christians” (to the extent I believe faith and politics are sadly intertwined) often dismiss even the concept of morality because it’s something proposed by the Religious Right.

I didn't say you were I also fail to see why affirming churches that allow for same sex marriage would not uphold the moral standards expected in marriage. Do you have any examples?

I have anecdotal examples of church environments (closer to the BRTD end of the progressive-Christianity spectrum than the TEC/ELCA end, although I definitely wouldn't say this is common enough to be characteristic of hipster Christianity as I've encountered it) in which an expectation of fidelity and monogamy wasn't really being upheld for anybody, but not of ones in which it was upheld for straight couples but not for gay couples.

That's what I was getting at. Kingpoleon had suggested that progressive churches gave gay couples a 'pass' over straight couples and I've never seen that; it's either upheld for both or not 'upheld' (in that it's not generally a core tenet) for both.

[afleitch]

My apologies - I worded it poorly. I meant I was uncomfortable with pro-gay churches that openly reject monogamy, fidelity, and traditional Christian morality. Not that there was so much a double standard thereof.

You're still not really clear. What 'traditional morality' are they rejecting because they are also pro-gay? Which churches? Unless them being pro-gay is your main issue with them, not a convoluted defense of 'sexual ethics.'

I mean there are examples of conservative vehemently anti-gay churches and congregations where infidelity, abuse and remarriage after remarriage is rife. My own parish priest had an affair with a married woman. If you want to split hairs.

If a church holds to the sexual ethics of fidelity and allows gays to be married in that church they also tend to expect the same standards. Its why a lot of gay Christians choose to get married there. If the church doesn't hold to these matters and all the straights are allowed to do what they want then yes that tends to apply to the gays too.

But being pro-gay has nothing to do with either of these outcomes.

[afleitch]

I don’t understand what you mean; Nathan is correct - a small (if growing) number of churches see little to no reason to keep traditional Christian teachings on premarital sex, frankly, among a number of other issues.

I know that. I've agreed with that in two posts I've made. I'm asking you what that has to do with a church being 'pro-gay' or not.