Opinion of BushOklahoma

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

Good person, terrible judgement.

Couldn't have said it better.

[WalterMitty]

at this point i am seriously worried about his mental well being.

all he wants in this world is unconditional love.  nothing wrong with that.

but what happens when he finally realizes that for one of the many reasons...he wont be able to adopt these children?  hell, what if he learns the whole damn thing is a scam and his 'children' dont exist?  i see this ending very badly.

i encourage bushie to seek professional help.  i have my own mental problems...and getting help was the best thing i ever did.  i should have done it a lot sooner.

[Fmr. Pres. Duke]

at this point i am seriously worried about his mental well being.

all he wants in this world is unconditional love.  nothing wrong with that.

but what happens when he finally realizes that for one of the many reasons...he wont be able to adopt these children?  hell, what if he learns the whole damn thing is a scam and his 'children' dont exist?  i see this ending very badly.

i encourage bushie to seek professional help.  i have my own mental problems...and getting help was the best thing i ever did.  i should have done it a lot sooner.

Or that these kids don't love him like he loves them. That has been a theme throughout the saga known as BushOK. He meets someone and loves them more than life itself and then that person leaves him. The kids he's sponsoring may not even know or care who he is. They probably will be confused when they get a card saying "love your daddy" if they even get it at all (and if they are monitored before they see them, they don't get it because it reeks of pedophilia). This will only end in more heartbreak and rejection. He's making the same mistake he made with Susan and Tiffanye except this time it's with two kids he sponsors and not a girl.

[Insula Dei]

I'm not an admirator of internet psychiatry, but Bushie really needs to see a therapist. Him not being able to see that himself isn't too surprising, but the fact that noone in his environment seems to have attempted to get him to seek professional help is, while not all that surprising for Oklahoma City, distressing. I'm especially wondering why none of his pastors and/or church friends try to steer him away from his selfdestructive behaviour. Surely he'd be at least as open with them as with some random strangers on the internet, even if he is very closed towards his own direct family?

[Joe Biden 2020]

Whether or not I can adopt the kids or not, I still feel led to pack up and move to Kenya in 3 years.  There's just something about that place that makes me truly want to call it home.  I was thinking the other day, as I think everyday that I really enjoy my life in Oklahoma and it will be hard giving up the conveniences that we have in America and going back 50-70 years in time, which is basically what I would be doing moving to Kenya, but the more I think about it, the more going back in time seems like it would be refreshing.  The life in Kisumu, Kenya is about what the United States was in the 1940s and 1950s with the additions of a supermarket and Internet/WiFi.  When I move, I can at least be closer to the children and be able to see them more regularly than just once a year even if I can't legally adopt them.

I will continue to call Kenya home and will continue to call Phelix and Mercy my children, because if I'm not their parent than who is?  Their birth mother is dead and they have no father.

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

Jeff, wasn't it you who was talking about turning on the air condidtioning in your house in the spring?  Kenya isn't exactly a cool climate.

You really need to stop thinking about these kids and get your own life in order first.

[Joe Biden 2020]

Jeff, wasn't it you who was talking about turning on the air condidtioning in your house in the spring?  Kenya isn't exactly a cool climate.

You really need to stop thinking about these kids and get your own life in order first.

I have turned the a/c on in my house for the summer.  I know there is little to no a/c in Kenya, but I can handle it by leaving the windows open and fans running at night.

I will not stop thinking about these kids and my life is in order.  I've got a job in Oklahoma that I will keep at least until I move, possibly be able to transfer to Nairobi.  My finances are slowly improving.  I own my own home and have for the last 32 months.  I drive a very reliable car that I am able to keep maintenance on.  My mother has stopped helping me with bills as she is retiring on 30 April and I am turning 30 on 29 April.  My spiritual walk with the LORD is amazing and very refreshing.  Everything I've shared over the past two weeks are just what He has shown me.  I will admit that I'm a little presumtuous in some instances and I may have been here, as well.  However, I honestly believe God is the one who is calling me down to Kenya in 2015 and to, at least, love these kids with a parental love.  I will admit I may have jumped the gun on the legal adoption, but I did that out of just wanting what is best for the children.  My intentions are well-meaning, and I don't believe anyone on the forum is questioning my intentions or motives.  I will also say I may be a little eccentric at times, but I am okay with that.  I am okay with who I am and who God has made me to be.  God loves me enough to come to where I am, but He loves me way too much to leave me there.  He is still teaching me and growing me and will continue to teach me until the day He calls me to my real home, Heaven.

Inks, I do believe my life is in order.  Are there changes I could make? Absolutely, and I would be the first to admit it, but I am happy where I'm at and where I've come and where I can go from here.

[Eraserhead]

Alright, I'm all caught up on the African drama now. I've never seen comedy and horror interwoven so exquisitely before.

Bushie, if you need to be loved so badly by another being, just get a dog. Seriously. If you treat it kindly and feed it three times a day it will love you more than any human could. Rescue one from a shelter while you're at it.

[tpfkaw]

Bushie, if you need to be loved so badly by another being, just get a dog. Seriously. If you treat it kindly and feed it three times a day it will love you more than any human could. Rescue one from a shelter while you're at it.

"I forgot to feed my dog today but I will definitely remind myself to feed him tomorrow."

"I talked to my pastor and I plan to walk the dog for 30 minutes once every week from now on."

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

You may believe your life is in order, but you should probably talk to an unbiased third party who has no previous connection to you to evaluate that.

[Bacon King]

Jeff, wasn't it you who was talking about turning on the air condidtioning in your house in the spring?  Kenya isn't exactly a cool climate.

You really need to stop thinking about these kids and get your own life in order first.

I have turned the a/c on in my house for the summer.  I know there is little to no a/c in Kenya, but I can handle it by leaving the windows open and fans running at night.

Open windows will give you malaria, bro

[I'm JewCon in name only.]

This entire saga is depressing me...my life hasnt even started yet as an adult...

[I spent the winter writing songs about getting better]

This entire saga is depressing me...my life hasnt even started yet as an adult...

You can learn from the mistakes of others.

[LastVoter]

This entire saga is depressing me...my life hasnt even started yet as an adult...

You can learn from the mistakes of others.

Bushie - Q&A on how to avoid the simplest of trainwrecks.

[Mechaman]

I'm not an admirator of internet psychiatry, but Bushie really needs to see a therapist. Him not being able to see that himself isn't too surprising, but the fact that noone in his environment seems to have attempted to get him to seek professional help is, while not all that surprising for Oklahoma City, distressing. I'm especially wondering why none of his pastors and/or church friends try to steer him away from his selfdestructive behaviour. Surely he'd be at least as open with them as with some random strangers on the internet, even if he is very closed towards his own direct family?

I strongly disagree with the notion that it is hard to get help in Oklahoma City.  While I do have problems with the church, I can't say that they are horrible when it comes to helping each other in hard times.  Short of somebody coming out as a homosexual or a woman who has had an abortion, most god fearing church folk seem to have a genuine concern about helping people with sh*t like psychological issues, drug addictions, pornographic addictions, etc. etc.  I myself went to a church provided AA-like program in Edmond and it really helped.  Sure I had to listen to all the stuff about "god this, god that", but hey I wasn't about to spend thirty bucks to attend the alternative option.

As for this latest BushOK episode, I don't feel qualified to judge (or more accurately, I feel too lazy to read more than this first page of replies).  If he wants to adopt some children more power to him.  Hell, if he wants to move to Kenya and get a nice Kenyan wife, some homeless kids, and a bland color compound on the Kenyan Desert Prairie more power to him.  I just hope he truly feels the dedication and strength to go through with living in Kenya and raising kids.
Considering that he went through legal adoption, which at least over here is a very costly and time consuming legal act, he might as well go all out.

[patrick1]

^Off topic: but Mecha since when do you have to pay for an AA meeting?  Pretty sure that is against the charter or something. From my limited experience you might want to chip in for coffee or something but there should never be any sort of cover fee.

Bushie seems a great hearted and well meaning individual who like many of us is often betrayed by their brain chemistry and inability to control impulses.

[WalterMitty]

'there are no dues or fees for aa membership'

a collection is passed around because every meeting is self supporting.  but it is totally optional to donate.  ive never seen anyone pressured to donate or ostracized for not donating.

okay, back to the topic of bushie's african children...

[I spent the winter writing songs about getting better]

This might be dated, but I think it's a good opportunity to share it again: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBsKZUAHzAc

[AndrewTX]

This might be dated, but I think it's a good opportunity to share it again: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBsKZUAHzAc

LOL! I totally forgot about this one!

[Joe Biden 2020]

This might be dated, but I think it's a good opportunity to share it again: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBsKZUAHzAc

LOL! I totally forgot about this one!

I just watched it with the sound muted, good one...

[Mechaman]

^Off topic: but Mecha since when do you have to pay for an AA meeting?  Pretty sure that is against the charter or something. From my limited experience you might want to chip in for coffee or something but there should never be any sort of cover fee.

Bushie seems a great hearted and well meaning individual who like many of us is often betrayed by their brain chemistry and inability to control impulses.

It's off topic, but it was some kind of non-voluntary AA thing.  Pretty much, and I don't want to give too much of my personal life away here, the school I go to gave me two options for violating a certain rule of the establishment.  One of those cost $30 for six sessions and the other was free.
Not sure if it was an official "Alcoholics Anonymous" (probably not, based off of what I heard here) thing, for the record.  I kind of use the term AA as kind of a general meaning.

And even then, the church provided one wasn't that horrible.

[Mechaman]

As for the topic,

I don't think it's entirely a good idea for Bushie to do everything just because he believes God is telling him to do it.  I really think that sometime along the way he needs to see a counselor or something.  I mean I've seen a few counselor or what not in the past few years to deal with my anger problems (look at some of my older posts, they're nasty) and it did wonders.

Just a thought.

[Joe Biden 2020]

I'm going to do some more praying on this particular subject, but I believe I need to continue with the pursuit of my MBA beginning this August at the University of Central Oklahoma in Edmond.  I am going to do this to give me a better chance of a higher paying job in Kenya when I move there in 3 years.  If I can get started this August, I should graduate by May 2014 which is still 10-11 months before I plan to be down there.  This MBA will not only help me in Kenya, but will also, no doubt, help me if for some reason I have to stay in Oklahoma longer than 3 years.  The first thing I will do is take my GMAT exam as already scheduled on Saturday, 19 May, 2012 in Tulsa.  I've already paid the $250 exam fee, so I might as well take it and see where it leads.  I still feel led to move to Kenya in 35 1/2 months from now by 1 April 2015, but I am also feeling led to make the most of my time left in Oklahoma to prepare me for whatever happens whether I am in Oklahoma or Kenya or elsewhere around the world.  I will, of course, talk to the admissions counselors at UCO in the next 6 weeks until the exam and even beyond to see if its even feasible considering I do not have a 3.0 GPA from my Bachelor's Degree, but this is a good step in the right direction, I believe.

[Joe Republic]

Oh, so this is the new update thread now?  Figures.

[Joe Biden 2020]

Oh, so this is the new update thread now?  Figures.

I've thought about reopening the update thread.