The Update for Everybody Else

[Antonio the Sixth]

Again, I've no idea what you guys mean with this "frienzone" thing. Considering my personal experience, I really don't understand this idea that being very good friends with a girl without any love feelings being involved is somehow strange or demeaning. Yes, I know I'm in many ways a special case, but I don't think I'm in the majority on this (or at least I hope so, otherwise I need to change my gender out of shame).

[rejectamenta]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

[Joe Republic]

I just learned that the only dog left in the world who was older than myself died last week. 

[Snowstalker Mk. II]

Also relevant

The reasoning is still correct, though I'd argue that the friendzone exists (insofar as one person rejecting another's romantic advances while establishing a platonic relationship), but is not a bad thing.

[opebo]

You want to work in a funeral home? I'd drink even more than I do now if that was my job.

Why?  Death is peaceful and painless - all problems solved.  The hospital or the nursing home is the place where the employees must turn to drink for solace.

[Snowstalker Mk. II]

In other news, got my SAT scores in--1960!

[afleitch]

I just learned that the only dog left in the world who was older than myself died last week. 

But not in dog years surely 'Old Joe'

[Tetro Kornbluth]

The 'friend zone' is kind of a creepy concept that stems from people being outraged that girls might not want to sleep with nice guys (tm) such as themselves. Am I overthinking this?

This is more or less what I was thinking.

[Hash]

So I was stuck outside halfway between the city hall and campus when some massive, uber-massive rain storm fell on me and totally soaked me, from head to toe. My clothes were wet or damp for 3 hours after that, and it destroyed some papers in my bag. Pretty horrible.

[opebo]

So I was stuck outside halfway between the city hall and campus when some massive, uber-massive rain storm fell on me and totally soaked me, from head to toe. My clothes were wet or damp for 3 hours after that, and it destroyed some papers in my bag. Pretty horrible.

Be careful of crotch rot or other fungal ailments such as ringworm.

[Antonio the Sixth]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

This is something that definitely can happen, isn't it? And it probably happens just as often to both genders. Friendship is not always immediately distinguishable from love, and of course a relationship can be interpreted differently by the people involved. I'm pretty sure there isn't even anything inherently modern about that.

What I find incredibly creepy is people who seem to think all guys who are friends with girls actually are just trying to "get laid". And the fact that these people are often male tends to mean they say more about themselves than about others...

So I was stuck outside halfway between the city hall and campus when some massive, uber-massive rain storm fell on me and totally soaked me, from head to toe. My clothes were wet or damp for 3 hours after that, and it destroyed some papers in my bag. Pretty horrible.

Oh God, that must be horrible. I would get crazy if this happened to me.

[Kitteh]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

[Incipimus iterum]

Just Arrived in  California

[Antonio the Sixth]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

[politicus]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

[Snowstalker Mk. II]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

Precisely what I was thinking.

[FEMA Camp Administrator]

Also relevant

Please, let's not turn this discussion into some crusade. Unrequited love/lust/what have you has existed since the dawn of time. The only difference is that now we have a catchy new phrase for it. Snowstalker's frustration is quite natural and there's certainly not sone reactionary "anti-feminist" motive behind it.

Now what he does in said friend zone is the actual topic if debate.

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

I had three small hamburgers at McDonalds.  Small fries.  Small coke. 2 Big Macs and a side salad.  500 calories max.

[free my dawg]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

Thank you, politicus. At worst, she says no, you mope about it for a week or two, and you move on without the feelings. At best, you have a girlfriend.

[memphis]

You want to work in a funeral home? I'd drink even more than I do now if that was my job.

Why?  Death is peaceful and painless - all problems solved.  The hospital or the nursing home is the place where the employees must turn to drink for solace.

Hospitals have all the good drugs. Employees there do much better than drinking.

[Antonio the Sixth]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

Thank you, politicus. At worst, she says no, you mope about it for a week or two, and you move on without the feelings. At best, you have a girlfriend.

But what if a good friendship is ruined in the process? Isn't it something worth preserving as well?

[Antonio the Sixth]

Anyway, in the case you missed it, I'm now back to France. Same mixed feelings I mentioned earlier.

[H.E. VOLODYMYR ZELENKSYY]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

Thank you, politicus. At worst, she says no, you mope about it for a week or two, and you move on without the feelings. At best, you have a girlfriend.

But what if a good friendship is ruined in the process? Isn't it something worth preserving as well?

One can ask someone out and still stay friends.

[Antonio the Sixth]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

Thank you, politicus. At worst, she says no, you mope about it for a week or two, and you move on without the feelings. At best, you have a girlfriend.

But what if a good friendship is ruined in the process? Isn't it something worth preserving as well?

One can ask someone out and still stay friends.

I guess it depends from the context. It might give rise to a lot of awkwardness on each side.

[H.E. VOLODYMYR ZELENKSYY]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

It might be because I am just as (if not more) awkward as Snowstalker, but from my perspective his attitude in that situation makes perfect sense. Sure, he could go on and make his feelings known, but why should he if nothing good can possibly come from that?

To get it out of his system and be able to move on.

Thank you, politicus. At worst, she says no, you mope about it for a week or two, and you move on without the feelings. At best, you have a girlfriend.

But what if a good friendship is ruined in the process? Isn't it something worth preserving as well?

One can ask someone out and still stay friends.

I guess it depends from the context. It might give rise to a lot of awkwardness on each side.

A girl asked me out once last year and I rejected her, but we're still cool 'n' stuff.