The Update for Everybody Else

[Kitteh]

I had my first threesome this weekend. It was quite fun

[Kitteh]

Is this woman with or without penis?

Didn't check, but I think its highly unlikely, considering she's about 90 pounds, tiny, and very feminine in a nerdy way..

Not sure about Thailand, but this describes a lot of trans girls in the US perfectly. A friend of mine and I have a joke that the two most common professions for trans women are prostitute and computer programmer.

[Kitteh]

I had my first threesome this weekend. It was quite fun

What happened more or less? Genders and general roles/activities, please.

Not sure how much I'll share on Atlas, but relevant to you, one of the other people involved was an Asian trans girl. Chinese, not Thai, though.

[Kitteh]

Is there a word for those who prefer trans partners?

A generic, neutral term? No. Typically among trans people the slang for men who prefer trans women as partners is "tranny chaser" or just "chaser", but that's a pejorative, definitely not something anyone would describe themselves as. Also, that could be considered offensive if used by a cis person; "tranny" is sort of like "n****r" in the sense that it is acceptable only if trans people say it (even then, it's not commonly used except when describing other situations where it is used pejoratively towards trans people, i.e. "tranny porn").

I believe someone on tumblr invented a word for attraction specifically to people who don't identify as male or female; Google-fu tells me the term is "skoliosexual". Still, that's one of those tumblrisms that's only used by a very tiny group of people on the internet and by nobody in real life. Plus it's not really attraction to trans people in general, just a specific subset of them.

So no, not really a general term that I know of.

[Kitteh]

Also relevant

[Kitteh]

In a nut shell, it's a millennial generation take on unrequited love. Guy develops feelings for a female friend, desires to take it to the next level but is rebuffed with "let's just stay friends." or at least a presumption that such a thing would happen.

More accurately, it's an invention designed by our blubbering, socially incompetent contemporaries to blame their inability to cope with rejection and letdown on society and trivialized versions of people instead of themselves.

More often, it's actually not rejection so much as the fear of rejection that keeps people in the so-called "friend zone". See Snowstalker's example.

[Kitteh]

Speaking of antidepressants, I recently stopped my seventh or eighth one that I've been on in my life. None of them did much of anything, except a few which gave me increased appetite/weight gain. My psychiatrist told me essentially that there was very little point in trying additional ones given my lack of success in the past and the fact that I've been through most different classes now (only major class I haven't tried is MAOIs due to the dietary issues). So I guess I'm done with antidepressants for the forseeable future.

[Kitteh]

Went to DC Pride with some friends today, and then clubbing afterwards. It was fun, relatively, at least as much fun as anything ever is for me now (depression.txt).

[Kitteh]

What is this "el toro" bit about btw?

That was Grumps's name back when he was doing porn in the 80s. I'm surprised you haven't seen it, seems right up your alley.

[Kitteh]

What is this "el toro" bit about btw?

That was Grumps's name back when he was doing porn in the 80s. I'm surprised you haven't seen it, seems right up your alley.

No, if it is not gay porn (I assume it is not), then no, it's not up my alley.

Well, he needed some quick cash to pay off the"help out a friend", and the money for men is all in gay scenes, so...

[Kitteh]

I have three more days left in Japan and I'll be going home into a moving-house situation, so that's going to be interesting.

Angry twitter types, stop trying to make 'cisgender' happen.

I have to admit that I really don't understand the supposed problem with this term. It's the neatest antonym for 'transgender' imaginable. What else ought one say to communicate the concept? Is the idea that the concept of 'the set of people who are not transgender or a member thereof' should not be or should not have to be communicated?

It's more to do with the latest twitter tag #hatecis or something by angry trangenders which has even been thrown at LGB's. Causing a bit of queer strife.

You might want to look at why people are angry before you just dismiss them as such. Anger is a normal response to some situations.

[Kitteh]

That's exactly the reason I made that comment. If you think that this is about people being angry at others for being cis you clearly don't understand what's going on at all.

[Kitteh]

I can't imagine you being up in arms about a bunch of (cis) gays starting a #fckchristians tag even though that's equally generalizing and "angry".

[Kitteh]

You'll notice that when a rhetorical question such as the one I posted above is asked the answer from the person being criticized is never to agree with it. Regardless, the point here isn't that I like that hashtag. It's just that I find it extremely annoying when people who obviously don't understand why there is so much anger here sit up high from a position of privilege and make snide comments about how people below them need to be more polite and less angry.

[Kitteh]

You'll notice that when a rhetorical question such as the one I posted above is asked the answer from the person being criticized is never to agree with it. Regardless, the point here isn't that I like that hashtag. It's just that I find it extremely annoying when people who obviously don't understand why there is so much anger here sit up high from a position of privilege and make snide comments about how people below them need to be more polite and less angry.

As a gay man, I didn't get the life memo that I was in a position of privilege.

As a cisgender man, when discussing the issue of trans people, you are.

[Kitteh]

Hey everyone! Checking in from college. Things are going not bad for me, had some really great and really terrible times. I def prefer that to my previous constant "blah" numb/apathetic state even if it averages out about the same. Classes start Monday, I have a mixed schedule; German (mandatory foreign language), sociology intro, something on evolutionary bio, and a religion course about the Abrahamic notion of "God" and its background and evolution over time, which is prob the most interesting imo.

I really don't understand the freshman obsession with alcohol. Sitting in an overcrowded room full of sweaty people who have never gotten drunk before drinking sh!tty beer until they puke is not exactly my idea of fun :b. That's not coming from any "conservative" standpoint, mind you, I just prefer certain other mind-altering substances to alcohol . ime the people who have been here for a while seem to understand this well (along with some freshmen, especially the ones I hang out with). Fortunately this isn't one of those places where people are strictly segregated by year, upperclassmen never talk yo freshmen, etc. My best friend so far is a junior, actually.

[Kitteh]

So first day of classes=survived. I'm already begging to learn that there are very few situations that can't be improved by adding loads of caffeine.

[Kitteh]

So today, our school got a French foreign exchange student.  He seems really nice and I hope he has a good at our school.

france->arkansas? I feel really sorry for the poor guy.

[Kitteh]

Earlier this evening after dinner I took a walk around the lake on/by campus. Was really beautiful-silent except for the crickets chirping, dark, deserted, great evening out. Mildly scary being there alone at night but not much. Sat around for like two hours and looked at the stars-it's been forever since I did that. Actually saw the first shooting star I can ever remember (yeah, stereotypical suburban kid). Really awesome and relaxing.

Surprisngly/sadly, was not on any mind altering substances at that time. I've yet to find a source for buying on campus so I'm dependent on friends, and they were all watching a horror movie in the dorm lounge which is very very much not my thing. Pretty much all the time I was thinking "man I wish I was high right now"

[Kitteh]

Nan's mind is best when its senses are not deluded by such vices.

Not possible, my friend. The fact that I was walking around and getting exercise already meant I was on a cannabis and opioid high. I'm just helping my body do what it's already doing.

[Kitteh]

So I'm almost definitely gonna drop my earliest class (which starts at 8:30 in the morning ughh :x) for one that starts an hourish later. That also means switching from German to French as my language requirement, which sounds better anyway. I think I'm getting pretty good at this laziness thing. Plus the professor for the second class is hotter than the prof for the first. Not that the German prof isn't attractive, she's pretty good looking, but the French prof much better. He's almost certainly gay tho (how stereotypical :b).

That's possibly the one thing I miss about being a guy; gay dudes are def hotter than straight dudes on average.

[Kitteh]

I personally feel that if I am in a relationship that is serious, I should have no close female friends and my partner should have no close male friends, unless they were "best friends" for a long time before the relationship, which I presume was what happened to you. While I see the general point, her unfriending of you and literally every guy on Facebook is just irrational.

This makes me glad that you being in a relationship will remain purely hypothetical for a long, long time.

[Kitteh]

I personally feel that if I am in a relationship that is serious, I should have no close female friends and my partner should have no close male friends, unless they were "best friends" for a long time before the relationship, which I presume was what happened to you. While I see the general point, her unfriending of you and literally every guy on Facebook is just irrational.

This makes me glad that you being in a relationship will remain purely hypothetical for a long, long time.

I would think a transvestite would be more tolerant of other people’s religious opinions in the same way they would want people to tolerate their lifestyle, which I do. My religion teaches about the concept of original sin, which you and I both have. Temptation is easy to come by, and I have at one point or another thought about more than just friendship with my female friends. That was a rather bigoted attack you leveled on me there, but whatevs Dawg (TM Cathcon).

[Kitteh]

I'm finding it a lot harder to tell girls' sexualities here. In virginia, a girl with a septum piercing, tattoos and/or purple hair is pretty likely at least a little queer. Not so much at a liberal arts college in NY.

[Kitteh]

Spent the weekend staying with a friend on Long Island, just got back to school now. Was super fun